Dwelling on the negative simply contributes to its power.
– Shirley Maclaine (Actress)
How often do you get stuck or caught up in a cycle of negativity? Practicing yoga, going to gym, meditating or starting your mornings with positive affirmations does not always prevent us from falling down, leaving us wondering why it’s so difficult to get back up again.
When this happens, how do you stop yourself from thinking in circles, allowing yourself to let your feelings paralyse you while dwelling on the same fears and frustrations over and over again and then wonder why you feel so stuck?
• Why do we always need to identify concrete solutions to all our problems?
• Why do we need to create the illusion of control in the middle of our circumstances?
• Why can’t we accept that our biggest problem is fighting the way things are and then consciously stop fighting ourselves?
Why can’t we just choose to be in this moment where we are right now instead of trying to find something better? Why do we always need to “fix” things? Accept that not everything broken can be or needs to be repaired.
This moment we are in right now is a new opportunity to let go of everything that is causing us stress and mental anguish. This moment is a new opportunity to take a deep breath so we don’t feel so overwhelmed and frustrated.
Are you living in the moment where you are right now or are you wishing for what could have, should have or would have been?
Every day brings a chance to practice stress or to practice peace.
– Joan Borysenko
Feeling bad and wishing we didn’t isn’t productive at all. We need to consciously choose to let it go, and be free.
Cling less: Enjoy more:
• We can’t fully appreciate a picturesque sunrise or sunset if we spend our time wishing it will never rain again.
• We can’t fully enjoy a moment of true connection if we’re wishing we’d never feel alone again.
• We can’t fully enjoy a relaxing day if we keep wishing we will never be busy again.
The key to happiness is possibly in focussing less on making the moments last and rather focussing more on making them count. This is possible when we choose to fully experience each moment as it happens rather than wishing they wouldn’t end.
We can all have more joyful experiences, if we’re willing to cling to less.