Come into my parlour said the spider to the fly


Poem: Come into my parlour said the spider to the fly
By Mary Botham Howitt

Will you walk into my parlour?’ said the Spider to the Fly,
‘Tis the prettiest little parlour that ever you did spy;
The way into my parlour is up a winding stair,
And I’ve a many curious things to show when you are there.’
Oh no, no,’ said the little Fly, ‘to ask me is in vain,
For who goes up your winding stair can ne’er come down again.’

‘I’m sure you must be weary, dear, with soaring up so high;
Will you rest upon my little bed?’ said the Spider to the Fly.
‘There are pretty curtains drawn around; the sheets are fine and thin,
And if you like to rest awhile, I’ll snugly tuck you in!’
Oh no, no,’ said the little Fly, ‘for I’ve often heard it said,
They never, never wake again, who sleep upon your bed!’

Said the cunning Spider to the Fly, ‘ Dear friend what can I do,
To prove the warm affection I ‘ve always felt for you?
I have within my pantry, good store of all that’s nice;
I’m sure you’re very welcome – will you please to take a slice?’
‘Oh no, no,’ said the little Fly, ‘kind Sir, that cannot be,
I’ve heard what’s in your pantry, and I do not wish to see!’

Spider and web (2)

‘Sweet creature!’ said the Spider, ‘you’re witty and you’re wise,
How handsome are your gauzy wings, how brilliant are your eyes!
I’ve a little looking-glass upon my parlour shelf,
If you’ll step in one moment, dear, you shall behold yourself.’
‘I thank you, gentle sir,’ she said, ‘for what you ‘re pleased to say,
And bidding you good morning now, I’ll call another day.’

The Spider turned him round about, and went into his den,
For well he knew the silly Fly would soon come back again:
So he wove a subtle web, in a little corner sly,
And set his table ready, to dine upon the Fly.
Then he came out to his door again, and merrily did sing,
‘Come hither, hither, pretty Fly, with the pearl and silver wing;
Your robes are green and purple – there’s a crest upon your head;
Your eyes are like the diamond bright, but mine are dull as lead!’

Alas, alas! how very soon this silly little Fly,
Hearing his wily, flattering words, came slowly flitting by;
With buzzing wings she hung aloft, then near and nearer drew,
Thinking only of her brilliant eyes, and green and purple hue –
Thinking only of her crested head – poor foolish thing! At last,
Up jumped the cunning Spider, and fiercely held her fast.
He dragged her up his winding stair, into his dismal den,
Within his little parlour – but she ne’er came out again!

And now dear little children, who may this story read,
To idle, silly flattering words, I pray you ne’er give heed:
Unto an evil counsellor, close heart and ear and eye,
And take a lesson from this tale, of the Spider and the Fly.

Mindfulness: The art of doing nothing and discovering a sense of being

Field of pink flowers

Within each of us there is a silence,
a silence as vast as the universe,
and when we experience the silence,
we remember who we are.
– Gunilla Norris

Sinfonia_Mauritius by mom

Relax, peace, silence, enjoy, rejuvenate, refresh, soothe, calm, quiet

Sinfonia_Brides Veil

Listen . . .
Listen to the wind . . .
It talks!

Listen to the silence . . .
It speaks!

Listen to your heart . . .
It knows!
(A Native American)

Be still and let the beauty of life fill your heart with appreciation. Anon.

Kitty hiding amongst flowers

The benefits of nature:
• Nature is perceived as sacred and inspiring

• A sense of oneness and unity is evoked in encounters with nature

• A sense of simplicity and feelings of peace and serenity is associated with nature

• When in nature we experience surrendering and a lessened need for control

• Our energetic, emotional, physical and spiritual needs are fulfilled

• A desire to reciprocate is evoked, a caring for and enrichment of nature

• Through connectedness and harmony, we may be inspired

Mindfulness: What it means to be free

Road in a beautiful forest in the morning

Road in a beautiful forest in the morning

Freedom is the will to be responsible to ourselves.
– Friedrich Nietzsche

When you choose to forgive instead of seeing the world through bitter eyes, you are free

When you learn from your mistakes instead of letting them define or cripple you, you are free

When you love yourself regardless of what other people think, you are free

When you accept uncertainty instead of stressing about what you don’t know, you are free

When you embrace chaos, instead of struggling for control, you are free

When you recognise that we all all imperfect, and then resist the urge to fight that, you are free

When you choose to appreciate what you have instead of crying over what you have lost, you are free

When you plant yourself in this moment, and do what you can to make the most of it, you are free

Mindfulness series: This moment is a chance to be free

Bird on flowers

Dwelling on the negative simply contributes to its power.
– Shirley Maclaine (Actress)

How often do you get stuck or caught up in a cycle of negativity? Practicing yoga, going to gym, meditating or starting your mornings with positive affirmations does not always prevent us from falling down, leaving us wondering why it’s so difficult to get back up again.

When this happens, how do you stop yourself from thinking in circles, allowing yourself to let your feelings paralyse you while dwelling on the same fears and frustrations over and over again and then wonder why you feel so stuck?

• Why do we always need to identify concrete solutions to all our problems?
• Why do we need to create the illusion of control in the middle of our circumstances?
• Why can’t we accept that our biggest problem is fighting the way things are and then consciously stop fighting ourselves?

Why can’t we just choose to be in this moment where we are right now instead of trying to find something better? Why do we always need to “fix” things? Accept that not everything broken can be or needs to be repaired.

This moment we are in right now is a new opportunity to let go of everything that is causing us stress and mental anguish. This moment is a new opportunity to take a deep breath so we don’t feel so overwhelmed and frustrated.

Are you living in the moment where you are right now or are you wishing for what could have, should have or would have been?

Every day brings a chance to practice stress or to practice peace.
– Joan Borysenko

Feeling bad and wishing we didn’t isn’t productive at all. We need to consciously choose to let it go, and be free.

Cling less: Enjoy more:
• We can’t fully appreciate a picturesque sunrise or sunset if we spend our time wishing it will never rain again.
• We can’t fully enjoy a moment of true connection if we’re wishing we’d never feel alone again.
• We can’t fully enjoy a relaxing day if we keep wishing we will never be busy again.

The key to happiness is possibly in focussing less on making the moments last and rather focussing more on making them count. This is possible when we choose to fully experience each moment as it happens rather than wishing they wouldn’t end.

We can all have more joyful experiences, if we’re willing to cling to less.